We wrote these on a Shabbos morning.

1.     Do you promise – to love each other especially as your relationship continues to change and mature, to be the first and only for each other in your life’s journey, and to support each other intellectually, physically in days of joy as well as those of sorrow?

2.     Do you pledge to continue to love each other for the complete individuals you are and to remain open and giving, fair and accepting, patient and kind to each other’s ideas, beliefs and perspectives; to found your dealings with each other on a bedrock of honesty and to forge a unity of experience from the strength that flows out of a genuine partnership between equals, with each other, with families and friends, with community and with the wonder of the world in which we live?

3.     Will you strive to always seek the beauty in every day, to seek the benefits and peace of earnest study and work, to learn and grow as a Jewish Couple and share the laughter and adventure as well as the bittersweet and tragic, to maintain the vision of your personal Shalom by not seeking the easy path, but actively choosing to create and to, hand in hand, find ever deeper spirituality and your place in the Universe.

4.     Are each of you committed to do all you can to explore your love, to achieve and treasure all aspects of fundamental intimacy and to willingly accept this challenge as well as the gifts of binding your lives together? To do so even as the inevitable gravity of life fades your physical bodies and the weight of time tries to narrow your views?

5.     Do you both vow and accept as your solemn oath before G-d, your families and these assembled witnesses to join your lives into a family and to walk together seeking to use your eyes to see the tapestry of life and your hands to join in weaving it together?